Heart broken is a good thing, because it make you to become stronger, also most of our fragile hearts have holes in them. There are wounds, some of which have healed entirely, some that have scabbed over, and some of which are still open. But because it has been shattered into a million little pieces, the light can shine through.so here are top 5 ways to overcome heartbreak, in a relationship.
1. Get the energy out.
This is especially needed if you’re feeling a lot of anger. Anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body.
One of the best ways to get the energy out is to get moving. Go for a run while blasting your favorite music through your headphones. Punch a punching bag (seriously, kickboxing class helped me get through A LOT of emotions). Get your sweat on in some way, and do it consistently.
2. Be honest with yourself.
Be honest with yourself if you’re truly wanting to get over a broken heart or if you’re harboring secret hopes that the two of you will get back together. While this is not wrong in any way (many of us feel it!), if the relationship is over, it will definitely impede your progress of moving on.
It helps when you can remember not to see the relationship through rose colored glasses. It’s so tempting to look back on a relationship and only see it for the potential you believe it had. We tend to remember the part where we were falling in love, when they were at their best selves, when we were at our best self, when we had ridiculous sex or that surprise dinner that was everything.
But there is a reason why you broke up. Be honest with yourself and the relationship for what it was, not just what you remember it as being.
3. Take back your personal power.
Get back to your own personal power as soon as you can. You may not be able to control what your ex does, but you can control your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
You can choose to see this relationship for the gift that it was. It was not just there to cause pain. It was there to help you evolve through this journey of life, learn to love, and learn to let go.
Life is made up of a collection of moments, people, and relationships that are not ours to keep. The pain we encounter comes from the illusion that some moments can be held onto. Clinging to people and experiences that never belonged to us in the first place is what causes us to miss the beauty of our life in this moment. Love and let go…love and let go…is the single most important thing we are meant to learn in this life.
4. Feel the feelings and don’t force yourself to “just get over it.”
Getting over a broken heart can take a lot of energy, work, and time. Don’t try to force yourself or listen to anyone who says “just get over it”. You might think you’re over it, then have a dream about this person and get flushed with feeling all over again. It can take a long time, and that’s okay, so be very gentle with yourself. It helps to talk to someone about it like a trusted friend or coach for guidance moving through the feelings.
Most people are very afraid of negative feelings and will do anything to avoid them. Remember that feelings can’t hurt you. They are simply an energy that needs to move through you and move on.
Let yourself cry. Remember that you’re not crying for the other person, you’re crying for yourself. To release the grief of the future that you saw with this person. It only existed in your mind, in the potential you could see, but it was there nonetheless.
Forgiveness is not about the other person or letting them off the hook. Forgiveness is for YOU. In fact, the definition of forgiveness is to stop feeling anger or blame at someone who has done something wrong.
Most of the time if a relationship didn’t work out, it simply wasn’t a good fit. If we’re coming from a place of full self-esteem, we would be able to see that and move on. But often in a relationship we feel a “spark” with someone for reasons that we cannot possibly understand. They come from deep seated beliefs as a child, and that person triggered a hurt or pain inside of you.
Don’t allow this hurt and anger to become your story while they’re out there moving on. By forgiving, you break the chains that are binding you and allow yourself to live a better life with the person you are meant to be with. Write a letter of forgiveness, say a prayer, or set the intention to forgive.